Finding out a partner is cheating isn’t something anyone wants to go through. It can destroy your relationship and make you wary of people you’re with in the future. Unfortunately, cheating does happen. In up to a third of marriages, at least one partner has admitted to cheating, a startlingly high percentage, and one that’s likely even higher in dating relationships. Chances are strong that you’ll have to go through it at least once in your life. So, what do you do when you know your partner is cheating on you? Here’s a guide on how to get the proof you need to confront your partner.
Talk to his or her friends
Ideally, you’ll want to be friends with your partner’s friends anyway. The side benefit of this is that your partner will have fewer people to cover his or her tracks if cheating is going on. If you know them well enough to strike up a conversation, you might be able to get all the information you need. Even just talking to them and asking if your partner has been acting weird or hanging out with different people can be helpful. Friends are also a great way to verify things you’ve been told. Was your partner really at the mall with friends until 8pm? There are ways to get answers to some of your questions without even being obvious about why you need to know.
Look your partner up on the Internet
Search engines have completely revolutionized the way we use the Internet. Google alone processes over 3.5 billion searches every day, and has indexed so many pages on so many websites that it’s all but a fountain of endless knowledge. The amount of information that search engines can maintain makes it a great way to find information about your partner. By simply searching for your partner’s name and your city, you may get hits from all sorts of different websites. You can find hidden Facebook and Twitter accounts, and perhaps even locate dating profiles. If you’re not getting anything by using the name, consider trying nicknames and other names your partner has used in the past.
Poke around in your partner’s phone
If you can get your partner’s phone, there are endless ways you can check for proof of cheating. First off, look through the installed apps. Check for dating apps and others you’ve never heard of before. Remember that apps specifically looking for affairs may be disguised as innocuous apps specifically so people looking through their partner’s phone won’t notice them. If you have your partner’s phone for a substantial amount of time, go ahead open a number of different apps that you aren’t sure of.
Your search shouldn’t stop there, though. A good idea is to look through recent text conversations and phone call logs. Most people don’t actually meet the person they’re having an affair with through an online dating site; usually, it’s just people from work or school. If there’s a suspiciously flirty text conversation, or many calls to a number you’ve never seen before, mark down the number. Then, use PeopleFinders to look up that number. Using the reverse phone lookup, you can get the name of the person who owns the phone, as well as his or her address and other contact information. Look up that person through the public records search and you’ll get even more information. It’ll be darn near impossible for your partner to refute the bevy of information you’ll have at this point.
Finding out that your partner is cheating on you is a horrible thing to go through, and it’s likely to lead to a desire for an immediate confrontation. Don’t give into that impulse, though. Instead, compile some evidence that you’ll be able to use to back up your accusation. PeopleFinders can help you find that evidence! Whether you’re looking up a suspicious phone number or trying to get contact information on someone your partner may be cheating with, it’s a great way to get whatever information you need.
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