If you’ve ever been in a serious relationship, you know the push and pull that happens when it comes to suspicion surrounding your partner. You want to be trustful, but you also don’t want to end up a fool. (Especially if you’ve been burned by someone before, and know how that feels.)
Of course, you don’t want to be overly suspicious, either. Jumping on your partner every time he or she makes eye contact with someone else, or worrying every time they want to go out alone with their friends will very quickly take a toll on your relationship.
What can you do to make sure you’re functioning at a healthy level of trust and caution?
-Get objective perspectives from friends or family
-Go with your gut
-Rely on open communication
-Find more information about your significant other
Listen to Your Friends and Family
If you’re not sure if you’re being too overbearing or letting your partner walk all over you, consider talking to your close friends and family about it.
This doesn’t mean you should give your friends and family the ability to completely control your relationship. But if you’re worried about whether you’re threading the needle properly, your loved ones may be able to give you an outsider’s perspective on the situation.
It’s hard to be objective when things are actually happening to you, but a trusted loved one can provide that objectivity.
Pay Attention to Your Gut
Your gut feelings are powerful. Even if everything seems fine on the surface, it’s possible that you’ve subconsciously noticed something that tipped you off to a problem. Your gut may very well let you know something is going on behind the scenes long before you have any physical proof. After all, that’s often how people realize their partners are cheating.
Remember that your gut isn’t always right, though. Even though it can give you a great jumping-off point to investigate, you can’t trust your gut with no evidence. Look into it to see whether you have any reason to be suspicious. Your gut may be right, but remember that it’s possible to misinterpret situations.
Always Rely on Open Communication
You should first and foremost rely upon healthy communication to resolve conflicts in your relationship, whether it’s romantic or platonic. By communicating well with your partner, you can stop conflicts before they bloom into something worse.
This is a preventative measure, which means you should initiate open, honest communication from the beginning. If you have a poor relationship with your partner communication-wise, any arguments or growing mistrust may just be coming out of that existing divide.
Build your relationship and improve communication first, and ten you can tackle issues of trust and suspicion from there.
Don’t Be Afraid to Take Matters into Your Own Hands
Sometimes, you’ve tried everything, but to no avail. Maybe you’ve talked to your partner, who has denied everything. But you still feel uncertain, and the people around you still worry that your partner is hiding something. At this point, it’s time to take some action.
There comes a point where you need to act on your concerns, even if you’re normally a trusting person. When you get to that point, use PeopleFinders to try and help.
With PeopleFinders, you can attempt to perform a people search on your partner to try and find information about them. The people search function combs the public records of millions of American adults and, in many cases, gives you access to their phone numbers, addresses, and other contact information.
Plus, you can perform a criminal records search to see if there’s information that would signify that a new significant other might be dangerous for you to be around.
There can be a good balance between caution and trust in a relationship, but hitting that balance can be difficult. Remember that a relationship works best if both parties are in it together. You should always be willing to come to your partner and talk about what’s going well and what’s going poorly.
If something has gone downhill and you want to find out if your partner’s been involved in something shady, make a search at PeopleFinders your first stop. If you’re able to look a bit more into their background, that can go a long way toward helping you find out about who your partner really is.
(And that’s not the only way you can use PeopleFinders, either. Check the PeopleFinders blog to discover more ways to use such search tools and information in your relationships and your everyday life.)
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