Nobody wants to be cheated on. It’s extremely upsetting, no matter how long you’ve been in a relationship. So, it makes sense that you’d want to avoid the heartbreak and fallout that generally happens if you find out your partner has cheated.
It pays to be on the lookout for the warning signs. By learning some of the signs that make someone more likely to cheat, you can make the decision not to get in a relationship with that person in the first place. Or, it can give you the information you need to have a frank discussion about infidelity beforehand.
Here are some cheating warning signs to look out for when you start seeing someone:
-They lie about things, even little things
-They have bad relationships with other people
-They’re cagey about their personal life
-They’ve cheated before
Trouble with Lying
Lying is, of course, not a good thing in general. Those little “white lies” could be a warning sign of something bigger. Sure, lots of people fudge the truth a little bit on a dating profile. But anything too out of the ordinary should be taken as a warning sign.
Did “in shape” really mean “not in shape?” Did 6 feet tall really mean 6 inches short of that? Whether it’s lying about the type of car he or she drives or embellishing a job, it’s important to note a pattern. Little lies can quickly build up into big lies, and you don’t want to have to deal with that.
Bad Relationships with Others
People who don’t have good relationships with their friends or family often have similar problems with romantic relationships. All relationships are built on the same foundation: communication and trust. If they can’t maintain that with other people, it could be a concern when it comes to your relationship.
Of course, especially when it comes to family, there are circumstances that you may not know about. It pays to account for the context of the poor relationship. Before you jump to any conclusions, pay attention to any steps they take to treat other people in their life kindly.
Secretive About their Personal Life
Obviously, you’re not going to tell someone every detail about yourself on a first date. That’s something that will have to build up to over time. However, as you progress further into a relationship and you find that they’re still unwilling to tell you anything about themselves, you may want to rethink getting any close.
Maybe they refuse to tell you where they work, or they don’t want you to meet their friends. Perhaps, they keep their whereabouts a secret at all times. Whatever they may be holding back, keeping such things a closely guarded secret could lead to them keeping other important things from you.
This is by far the biggest red flag in a relationship. People who have cheated previously are much more likely to cheat again. And oftentimes they know how to cheat without being caught, something that doesn’t bode well for future relationships.
However, if they’re upfront about it and they’re willing to do certain things to build trust, you may still have a path forward. You may be able to work something out where you’re able to hold them more accountable, so you’re both more at ease.
Unfortunately, most of the time, a cheater won’t tell you that they’ve cheated before, so you may need to do your own research. See if you find any evidence of infidelity–in the past or currently–on social media or by talking to your partner’s friends or family.
Ultimately, if you have concerns that a person you’re dating could cheat, it’s up to you to take control of your emotional safety. Whether you’re worried because of signs you’ve noted, or because a previous cheating experience has left you gun-shy, you should not move forward with a relationship without addressing things first.
For more information on both the good and bad aspects of relationships, be sure to check out the articles on the subject on the PeopleFinders blog.
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