Are You Dating Someone Who’s Married?

Author: PeopleFinders on May 19th, 2020
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For some people, dating is exclusively casual, something that you do to have fun. However, many people are looking for a long-term relationship in their dating life, someone with whom they can share the rest of their life.

But in that case, what if the person you’re dating has already found a long-term partner? Although there are affair websites and people looking to hook up with other married individuals, there’s a more sinister form of affair where the married person doesn’t disclose that marriage to their new partner.

Why do this? Simply, the immorality and danger of engaging in such a relationship can be exciting to some people.

When the truth comes out about this kind of relationship, it’s bound to destroy much more than just that person’s marriage. As one of the people being lied to, you may feel awful knowing your partner kept such a secret from you for that long.

You may feel as though it’s partially your fault. And, especially if you’re morally opposed to affairs, you can have a crisis of conscience.

Finding out the truth at the beginning is the best way to avoid these problems. What are some signs that could indicate your partner is married?


They might be:

  • Chatting with you at strange times
  • Never letting you meet their family or friends
  • Being distant during holidays and other special occasions
  • Paying for things with cash

Only Chatting at Strange Times

A married person tends to spend their spare time with their family and/or spouse in the evenings or on the weekends. If your mate can only talk to you late in the evening or during business hours on weekdays, there might be something fishy going on.

Even if your partner isn’t married, he or she may be catfishing you or otherwise involved in tricking you. Try to set up a voice or video chat on your time, and see what they say.

You’re Never Able to Meet Your Partner’s Friends

Sure, it may take a little bit of time before you’re comfortable enough with each other to meet your extended circle of friends. However, eventually, you should start meeting some of the people in your partner’s inner circle. If you’ve started introducing your mate to your friends, but he or she doesn’t seem interested in doing the same, there’s probably something wrong.

It’s especially suspicious if your partner makes excuses as to why you can’t meet the other friends. It could be that your partner is worried that word will get back to a spouse.

Strangely Distant During the Holidays

The holidays are times to be around your family. If your partner is suspiciously absent around those times, it could mean that he or she can’t get away from a spouse and family responsibilities. The holidays that you should be most suspicious of are Christmas and Thanksgiving, as they’re generally considered multi-day holidays, and many people take family trips during these times.

Almost Always Pay in Cash

Sure, bad credit could be the issue. But paying in cash for everything is pretty rare this day and age. It may very well relate to someone covering their tracks. By using cash, there’s no paper trail and no reason to answer to a spouse who has equal access to a bank account or credit card statement.

If you notice a lot of cash exchanging hands when you’re out with your partner, it could be time to get suspicious.

How Can I Tell for Sure?

There are a few other ways to tell for sure if you’re dating someone who’s married. Obviously, you can do some searching on social media. Or try to get in contact with your partner’s friends; you can consult a public records search site like PeopleFinders to try and verify their relatives, friends and other known associates.


When worrying about cheating in a relationship, most people think about someone else cheating on them. They rarely recognize that they could, in fact, be someone’s cheating accomplice. If you want to make sure that your partner doesn’t have a spouse, do a little research first. After all, you can’t necessarily expect your partner to come clean about it. Make sure you have the knowledge you need to confront a partner with incriminating evidence, or to break it off before things go too far.

For more information on ways to deal with cheating and other relationship challenges, be sure to read the PeopleFinders blog.

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