Different people handle their romantic relationships in different ways. And while 60 percent of married people report being very happy in their marriage, that leads to the unfortunate conclusion that 40 percent are not. In a relationship where you don’t completely trust your partner or one where you’re not that happy with the way your partner handles things, you might become more paranoid about them. After all, if one partner is very unhappy with their marriage, it’s likely that the other is as well, and if your partner is lukewarm about your relationship, they might turn to things like cheating and doing other unwise things behind your back. If you feel as if you need to keep tabs on your significant other, there are many different ways to do it. Here are some of the most effective methods.
Look them up using an internet search
The internet has made an irreversible impact on our lives in the 21st century; with over half of all humans on Earth having access to the internet, it’s a simple and effective way to get in touch with people, no matter how far away they might be. There are plenty of things that internet searches can help you with, and you can get almost any piece of information you’re looking for, especially if that information concerns people. Whether your partner is on social media sites but you’re not, or you’re worried that your partner has created social media accounts that they haven’t told you about, you can find their information with a quick search. If you can’t find any accounts using their legal name, look harder; try using their mother’s last name instead of theirs, or a nickname rather than their real first name.
Stay friends with their friends
If your partner is hiding things, they’re going to want to hide them from the least amount of people possible because it takes a lot of energy to keep secrets. Being friends with your partner’s friends means that if they do insist on doing things you wouldn’t approve of, they’ll have to keep it a secret from all their friends too. Hopefully, if you’re friends with your partner’s friends, they’ll be interested in telling you if your partner starts cheating or doing suspicious things behind your back. You don’t have to be invasive about it, but if your partner enjoys being around certain people, it’s likely that you will as well! Maintain those friendships as an added method of keeping your partner accountable.
Make sure your partner’s stories match up
If your partner says that they’re going out with some friends, but their friends later say they never went out together, that’s a red flag. Many people don’t think to ask people if their partner was doing what they said they were, but it’s a good way to catch your partner in lies and potentially do something about it. If you’re friends with your partner’s friends, it should be substantially easier to ask them about their shared activities. If your partner says they’re going to be grocery shopping, but don’t come back with any groceries, or it takes substantially longer than it would usually take them, it’s likely that you’re right to be suspicious. There’s nothing wrong with asking for your partner to give you a reason why certain stories don’t seem to match up.
Do a background check
Background checks are usually difficult, time-consuming, and expensive to perform without someone’s express consent. But with the advent of the internet, you can now check people’s background in a much simpler and convenient way. With PeopleFinders, you can easily make sure that your partner isn’t doing things that you don’t know about. Their background check feature will give you the full story, including criminal reports and public records that could let you know if they’re lying about their past. This is important because lies about the past could easily be a precursor to lies about what they’re doing now. You can use the people search feature to gather detailed contact information, which could show you email addresses or phone numbers you didn’t know about.
If you’re worried about your partner doing something upsetting in your relationship, such as cheating or lying to you, it’s natural to want to keep track of them. If you don’t want to rely on their word alone, you might want to use PeopleFinders to get the full story. With PeopleFinders, you don’t have to worry about if they’re lying or getting their friends to cover for them; you can get all of the facts and decide for yourself.
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