People have a lot of strange hobbies. Yours may be “normal,” such as painting, or it could be considered a little more bizarre, such as taxidermy. Either way, you’re probably not breaking the law with your hobby. However, do you know if the same can be said for your friends?
It’s true that, for the most part, the people you’ll know in your everyday life have no ties to crime. That doesn’t you’ll always be 100% safe, though. “I’m going to the skating rink” could actually be a cover-up for something shady.
Especially if you’ve just made a new friend, it’s important to make sure he or she isn’t secretly involved in something illicit. Whether you’re starting to suspect that something is happening, or you’re just noticing that a friend is spending more time on a “hobby” recently, make sure you look out for these warning signs:
- They don’t talk about it much
- If they do refer to it, they don’t seem that excited
- There’s no physical proof of the claimed activity
- They otherwise behave oddly
Your Friend Doesn’t Talk Much About It
Normally, your extracurricular activities are something you like to talk about occasionally. If you paint, you probably like to talk about painting. You like to cook? It’s likely you are eager to chat about recipes, cooking tools and techniques.
Does your new friend talk about the hobbies in which he or she is supposedly interested? Or, do you find that it never comes up except when this friend needs an excuse to leave or be unavailable? If it suddenly dawns on you that your friend never really talks about it, then you should be suspicious.
Your Friend Answers Questions with Wishy-washy Statements
As a good friend, you probably want to learn more about your friends’ interests. That means you’ll probably ask your friends what they enjoy doing, and you’ll usually even ask follow-up questions to learn more in an attempt to bond.
However, what if the other person doesn’t seem interested in talking about it? If your friend dodges questions about their new hobby, you may want to ask whether he or she is actually interested in that activity or using it as a front.
You Don’t See Any Physical Proof of These Activities
Most hobbies result in some form of concrete proof. It could be a stronger body (such as with running or acrobatics), an actual item (such as with painting or sculpting), or a different approach to life (such as with writing or research).
Essentially, new diversions mean that your friend should start changing. That is usually a good thing, and means that your friend is doing something enjoyable and growing because of it. It’s suspicious if your friend doesn’t seem to be changing at all, and doesn’t seem to have any proof that these hobbies are taking place.
Or perhaps you do see evidence. But it’s that something weird is going on instead….
Your Friend Seems to Be Involved in Other Strange Scenes
Of course, “strange scenes” can all just be indicative of something else. Perhaps your friend is merely very secretive. Or they’re using one hobby to cover up one that they feel is more embarrassing. It’s not at all dangerous if your friend is claiming an interest in bodybuilding while actually taking ballet lessons.
That’s why you need to take into account everything else around these suspicious activities. If you know your friend has been involved in illegal actions before, seems to be constantly short on money, or is especially jumpy recently, it may be indicative of a problem.
How Can I Make Sure My New Friends Are Safe?
The best way to ensure that you’re safe around new friends is to check whether they’ve been involved in illegal situations before. It’s relatively common for criminals to re-offend. So, if you find out that someone’s been caught in illegal circumstances before, then that’s a red flag. To do that, use PeopleFinders.
It’s incredibly easy to use PeopleFinders to try and check up on new friends. Perform a criminal records check using a friend’s name and location. You may get information on whether that person has ever had a run-in with the law and, if so, what type of crime the person committed. That information will help you decide whether to ditch that person from your life.
Most of the time, the people you meet are going to be good folks. Their extracurricular activities may be odd, but not necessarily dangerous.
There’s no reason to be paranoid that everyone is out to get you. But it’s important to be thoughtful and not take people at their word entirely. Use PeopleFinders to try and check on new friends, and keep up-to-date with the PeopleFinders blog for more ideas on how to use these tools.
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